I asked to recall some of the situations in which it is manifested. Details can be found by clicking len rosen barclays or emailing the administrator. It was important to determine "how", "what criteria" the woman learns of her husband's lack of love and to establish the real source of the problem. During the session it became clear that whenever a woman begins roughly show their feelings, the husband starts to worry and asks her "not to indulge." After which a woman a bad mood, a burst of happy emotion gives way to grief, and then sadness. In this case, the husband gets modified the behavior of his wife, with the rapid manifestation of the emotions which he can not handle. But pays no attention to her mood swings. And even more unaware of the importance of what is happening to their relationship.
When working with restoration of individual history of the word "not " woman realized that letting the desire to indulge and pamper are for it one of the criteria of love. It was formed in childhood as a result of interaction with his father, a love which she had no doubt: her father is allowed and permitted to indulge! Such a fact his father's love was 'fixed' mother in a conversation with a friend: "My husband's daughter is incredibly fond of. It solves it all anything and spoil it. " Imposition of sentence meaningful rights, feelings and expressions of his father, his own feelings and expressions formed the "test of love", on which the woman did not even guess. Ban indulge her husband was a signal of that "it is not love, because when love can indulge." Unconscious criterion had a strong influence on her life, changing, distorting the vision of the real situation. .